Kindness and Compassion Half Day retreat | Saturday 29th September 2018 | 12:30pm-5pm | £40 (£30 concessions)
Mindful Therapies Centre, British India House, 15 Carliol Square, Newcastle upon Tyne, NE1 6UF
Most of us have a tendency to be quite hard on ourselves, usually much harder on ourselves than we are on those we care about. We can generally feel compassion for a friend who is struggling whether physically, emotionally or mentally; yet when we are struggling we often slip into a spiral of self-criticism, inadequacy, self-limiting beliefs, anger and self-loathing. In our everyday lives – in work, in relationships and as parents, we often judge ourselves harshly and compare ourselves less favourably than others around us.
Mindfulness is awareness of what is happening , when it is happening with a spirit of openness and curiosity. Mindfulness can help us turn towards our difficult thoughts and feelings – emotions and physical – without blocking or turning away. Self-compassion helps us to change our relationship with our painful thoughts, emotions and physical sensations. It can help us to transform our negative self-talk into a way of relating to ourselves that is positive and nurturing and can help us to grow and flourish. We can respond with kindness and understanding to soothe and comfort ourselves. We can learn to bring the same caring attention to ourselves that we would bring to a loved one and that a loved one would offer us. We are all human and we all face difficulties; self-compassion is the awareness and that you too are worthy of compassion and you can make an active choice to give yourself permission to care for yourself.
Often, people believe that being kind to ourselves will make us lazy and less likely to achieve our goals. In reality, our inner critic often gets in the way of us achieving our full potential. We can learn to connect to ourselves more fully and treat ourselves like a friend.
Evidence from research into mindfulness and self-compassion has shown that it can:
- Increase baseline happiness levels
- Reduce anxiety and depression
- Improve physical and mental health
- Develop a greater sense of well-being and contentment
Who can benefit from this course
Mindfulness and self-compassion can be developed by anyone. Through the practice of repeatedly generating good will toward ourselves, and others, we cultivate our natural desire to be happy. With regular practice we can give ourselves the caring attention we deserve whenever we need it.
Although no prior mindfulness practice is required for attendance on this course, it is complemented by our First Steps to Mindfulness course which runs in April and October, our mindfulness and compassion course and our introduction to mindfulness day retreat.