When I became redundant

In the first 30 months of this decade I was fortunate enough to be made redundant not once but twice. Not that it felt in any way positive. The definition of the word itself says it all;



Not or no longer needed or useful: Superfluous

My story

Now I have dedicated my life to trying to help others improve their circumstances, feeling useful is my key driver. The first redundancy followed a very successful career working in homelessness, I held a senior position in a large and growing regional ( now national) charity, I chaired the National Advisory Council for Homeless Link – the umbrella body for homeless organisations in the UK. I believed I was making a difference, that I was, that I was useful. Unfortunately the Chief Executive had a different perspective. I thought I was priceless, he thought I was worthless! So we agreed a ‘voluntary redundancy’.

Becoming redundant

I had already worked for or with most of the other providers of homelessness services in the area and a combination of pride and shame led me to conclude that my career in the sector was over. My pride gremlin told me that I had helped develop the best homelessness services in the region, anywhere else would be a backward step. Although I resisted this initially, when I was brought in to that organisation it was probably the worst in the region and I had played a significant role in turning it round.

However, as I began to overcome my pride, the shame gremlin leapt in. I had been declared redundant, I was superfluous, useless. Initially my anger was directed at those I believed to be to blame, complex conspiracy theories developed in my mind. Then came the feelings of abandonment and invisibility. Contact with former colleagues I had considered to be friends, both inside and outside of the organisation, reduced to zero – I was no longer of any use to them, I was useless. I had the support of my family and friends but began to feel I had let them down too, the anger shifted. I became increasingly angry at myself, how had I not seen this coming, how had I let it happen – I felt invisible and blind! I was not feeling fortunate at that stage.

Becoming more

I started spending long hours at the beach, meditating and reflecting, I started regularly exercising and read more. I had withdrawn into myself but I had started making plans to reinvent myself. I returned to education, enrolling on teaching and coaching courses,I started applying for jobs and I began my mindfulness journey. Mindfulness did not save my life but it certainly opened up the possibilities of new life. I would become useful again and I would start by proving my worth with knowledge and qualifications. I returned to University and trained to become a business coach, I went to college to prepare to teach to adults, I was going to build my own coaching and training business – I didn’t need others to give me value or so I thought.

Then I got offered a job, a good job for a national charity that aligned to my previous skill set.  Someone wanted me, someone valued me, someone thought I was useful. External verification was much stronger than any feelings of self esteem and self worth I had internally generated. Why work for myself when somebody else wanted me? I took the job.


It was a great job, I really enjoyed it and believe I made a difference but the service I was managing had been struggling for many years, fairly early on a director of the company told me that it was regarded as a cancer in the organisation and that I should not expect to be around for long. Eighteen months later the decision to close the service was made and I was again made redundant.

Redundant again

This time it was different, the service was closed, there was no job to do, it was not personal. Initially I tried to fight it, but this was not something I could change. It felt the same and my immediate reaction was very similar but my response was very different. I was angry, I was scared ( no redundancy package this time) and I wanted someone to blame. But my response was different. This time I applied what Jon Kabat-Zinn calls the seven attitudinal factors of mindfulness. To find out more please read 7 attitudes .

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